Monthly Archives: July 2013

Violence: Its More Than South Bend

Violence: Its More Than South Bend

With all drama seen is South Bend, I often hear people say “I need to get me and my family out of South Bend.” I laugh to myself whenever I hear these statements or read them on a social network. South Bend is a small city, but homicides has decreased this year, which is a good thing. But the fact that people think they can move to a different and bigger city and find something different is amusing.
Ever since I can remember, someone I went to school with, lived in a neighborhood with or just knew or heard of through mutual friends has died almost every year since my freshmen year at Washington H.S. These deaths not only had an effect on me, but my friends, families, classmates, peers, pretty much our entire city. It’s a sad thing to see people you’ve known and grown up with to suddenly die. Instead of people in our city trying to take a stand, they want to run away from what they know and secretly love. After the recent deaths of 20-year old Ja’Rina Bailey and 29-year old Dominque Jackson, I’ve seen and heard people talk about moving away from their home again.
A Facebook user updated their status after the shooting; “See, this is why I’m moving outta South Bend BC of ignorant mfs running around shooting with no remorse…smh…not realizing that they’re hurting more than the person/people they’ve shot, but their families too.” Several statuses like this one continue to fill me news feed. These statuses are from men and women who knew these victims, and yet instead of taking a stand they choose to run.
What I find ironic about situations like this is that they will fight for justice for a young man way in Florida, but when it comes to someone in their hometown, the first thing they say is they have to go.
It’s befuddling that these adults think that they can move to a new city with new people and not see these same situations occurring. We see it every day on TV. From Indiana to Illinois to New York to Florida to Georgia. You can’t run or hide from it. Truth is, this is the norm, some babies, kids, teens, men and/or women get shot and it’s just normal in today’s day and age.
If you really care and really want to help, don’t run, take a stand. If you know something, speak out on it. If you want to make a change and want your voice heard, join an organization; come together with people in your community and try to prevent this from happening again. The number one thing that can be done is start talking! People don’t want to be labeled a snitch, but what if it was your sister, brother, uncle, mother, father, etc. Wouldn’t you want someone to say something? Don’t run from what you know, take a stand and make a difference.

Stevie Wonder Takes A Stand

Stevie Wonder Says He Will Not Play In Florida Until “Stand Your Ground” Law Is Abolished. Maybe others will follow his lead and boycott Florida all together. Too much is going on in the state and something must be done. Isn’t this a great place to start? Kudos to Stevie!

CPS: ARE THEY DOING THEIR JOBS?

CPS: ARE THEY DOING THEIR JOBS?

Every day in the United States more than five children die due to child abuse and/or neglect. That’s 1,825 kids dying in a year. We all know of or hear about a child being abused and/or killed at least once a week in our local news or social network. In many of these cases, the abuse is reported to Social Services and Child Protective Services but nothing is done to protect these kids.
Nina Koistinen, of Phoenix, Arizona and mother of nine, killed her six day old daughter Maya Koistinen, by suffocating her. Prior to killing her baby, Koistinen contacted CPS telling them she wanted to smother her kid. She also made statements about causing a car crash so that her children could go to heaven. Despite Koistinen telling CPS officials about her ideas, her children remained in her custody.
Another woman, Bambi Glazebrook of Indianapolis, Indiana killed her two month old son, Phillip. Glazebrook kept her son in a drawer for days without feeding him. This eventually led to his death. Glazebrook had already lost three children to CPS and she was still allowed to keep Phillip and two other children in her home. In this case CPS was contacted and informed on the children’s living habits prior to Phillips death and nothing was done to save these children. A witness said CPS came to the home, but when no one answered the door, the case was closed.
A few miles from Indianapolis in South Bend, Indiana was the case of Tramelle Sturgis who was beaten to death by his father Terry Sturgis. Tramelle and his siblings were beaten for years by their father (whom had custody of the children) and his mother. The neighbors of the Sturgis family contacted CPS and South Bend Police Department numerous times. Still nothing was done to prevent these beating. This is only three of the millions of child abuse and neglect cases which led to the death of a child. In 2010 1,537 children died because they were abuse and/or neglected. The number has increased since then. Every year 600 million reports are made reporting child abuse. Social service providers: 60% (teachers 16.4%; law enforcement 16.7%; social service 11.5%) Anonymous (9%), other relatives of the child (7%), parents (6.8%), and friends or neighbors of the child (4.4%) made up the remaining total. Child abuse can and always should be reported and looked into. Authorities may go to a home and see no signs of abuse and close the case. That shouldn’t be how the system work. The children should be taken from the home immediately until an investigation is completed. This may be time consuming and even expensive, but it’s all worth it; even if only saves one child life. If you suspect some you know, or don’t know is abusing their children, report immediately, continue to report and harass the authorities until something is done. It’s bad enough we’re losing our kids to gun violence, bombers, and enraged ‘mentally ill’ gun men. We don’t need to lose them to the people who are supposed to love and care for them the most.
If you want to know more about child abuse and what to do if you suspect, or even lend a hand and help children from abused and neglected, visit http://www.preventchildabuse.org/index.php.

The Fosters: Is it to much for family TV?

The Fosters: Is it to much for family TV?

The Foster’s has been popular since it premiered on ABC Family over a month ago on June 3. This show instantly became several peoples favorite Monday night show. But does this show, show and do to much for a family channel? I personally don’t think it does because what’s seen on this screen is the reality that we’re all are living in, in this day and age. Teenage sex, drugs, same sex marriages, abandonment, etc. It seen everyday in the news and Jennifer Lopez decided to show it on a family networks because there are families similar to The Foster. What do you all think about this show? Do you like or is it doing to much? Comment below and share your opinions.

WOMEN: DO YOU WANT A GOOD MAN OR THE RIGHT MAN?

 

Every woman, no matter if they’re White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, etc. all say they want a good man, who will treat them right. They want or “need” a man who is romantic and wants to someday get serious and/or married and they want him to be a great father. This list can go on and on. The issue with some of these women is that they want so much from a man, that sometimes their wants and needs can seem unrealistic. 

Something that’s seen very often with women who claim to want a good and stable man, is that these women are presumptuous. Women will say they want a good man with an education, steady job, etc. and yet they go seeking for these men two times or more a week at a night club. The only thing a woman can find for sure in the club is drama and a ‘baby daddy’ and only if their lucky, that relationship will become serious one day. These same women will sleep around with several different men and then get upset when they are referred to as a hoe. What exactly do these women expect, to be respected?

Another issue seen amongst women is that they will let a man ‘run’ them. A woman, let’s call her Olivia complains about her children’s fathers doing her wrong and disrespecting her in front of his friends and their daughter. Yet, she continues to do favors for him and will drop everything for him if he needs her. Olivia claims to want respect from this man, but she continues to stand by him even after he disrespected her verbally, mentally and physically. Not only should he longer have anything else to say to her unless it involves their daughter, but she is also showing her daughter that it’s okay to let a man hit you and still be by his side and have respect for him. This same woman is now is a new relationship with an okay guy. This man, like every other person in the world has flaws. But his flaws are to the point where she should no longer be involved with him. His main problem seem to be being in a relationship. Funny, right? He wants Olivia to act the part and be his woman when it’s convenient to him, but he doesn’t want to be her man. Olivia’s boyfriend come and goes as he pleases, he rarely wines and dines her and takes her out. She doesn’t like he that acts this way, and she tells him that. But since she always let these issues go, she letting him get away with it and allowing him to treat her badly.

Then there are those women who says “all the good men are taken, or they no longer exist.” These are the women who takes advantage of the men in their lives and becomes blind when a real man is in their lives. Women must learn that they have to prove themselves to men, just as they want men to prove himself to her. You want him to prove that he’s for you and that he loves you, but you’re not even doing the same for him.

Women must learn that they won’t have the perfect man or relationship. If everything is perfect then something must be wrong. To those of you complaining about men, step outside your life and relationships and reevaluate them. You may learn that you let your once in a lifetime man get away or that he’s been waiting around for you for years. You’ll learn something about yourself as well. Women, not all men are dogs, just don’t expect them to a million things that you can’t even do yourself. And like Lyfe Jennings sung in Statistics “don’t be a nickel looking for a dime.”